Tuesday, August 17, 2010

Tuesday – Porous

As if you don’t know enough about me already, Ray says I’m porous. We were watching the fireworks on the Fourth of July when he said it. I hollered, “What?! I’m not porous. That means I can’t keep a secret. That means I’m not trustworthy.”

Ray said, “I didn’t say that. I said you were porous.”

I said, “But Ray. I CAN keep confidences. I AM trustworthy.”

Ray said, “Whoa. Whoa. Whoa. You are putting words in my mouth. I said you were porous. I didn’t say you weren’t able to keep confidences or weren’t trustworthy.”

It got too noisy and we couldn't finish our discussion so I finished watching the fireworks going off in my porous brain.

I love Ray. I enjoy Ray. I admire Ray. I respect Ray. I have his “Janey Payney is my hero” text saved in my phone. I also wanted to know what he meant by being porous, so I asked my sister, “What does it mean if someone thinks you are porous?”

She said, “That you absorb a lot.”

I asked someone else, “What does it mean if you're porous?”

She said, “It means you readily distribute and give back all that you’re given - Easy in, easy out.”

I looked porous up in the dictionary. It said, “Permeable.”

Not one place did it say that you can’t keep confidences or aren’t trustworthy if you're porous.  The more I thought about being porous the more I liked it. In fact, by the time I was through pondering on the thought of being porous, I quite liked the description and even agreed with Ray. (After all, I can redistribute leftovers into a concoction you’ve never seen, and love? I really absorb love. I’m permeable, too, I don’t have  elephant hide and, unlike snakes, have a conscience.)

And, I can keep a secret. Why, I’ve been sitting on this news for five days. They asked me not to tell until Tuesday and you haven’t heard one peep from me. But here it is 12:01 a.m. on Tuesday morning and it’s time to tell:


Ty and Michelle are engaged! We could not be happier. Ty asked Michelle to marry him while they were home last week and then, because Michelle’s ring won’t be ready for another couple of weeks, they did what any respectable couple would do and went to Wal-Mart at midnight and chose a ring from the jewelry counter so it looked official when they told us the next morning.  Congrats, congrats, congrats Ty and Michelle. Next May can’t come soon enough. 

24 comments:

Julie said...

Hmmm. porous. I agree, I would have gone with can't keep information in my brain because it leaks out of all the holes! In which case I'm very porous! But I agree with all the other definitions that are more complimentary. Go Ray! I'm VERY excited to hear your little secret. Can I help? I'll be more than moved in and the Phipps B&B will be open for all Paynes who need somewhere to stay! Ty did well! Michelle is wonderful!

Julie said...

And thanks for posting it early so those of us far away in different time zones could hear first!

Lucy said...

I'm pretty sure I would have been suspicious of the compliment too. Glad it turned out to be a good thing. You ARE porous!

congratulations to your son, Ty, and his lovely fiancee.

Rachel said...

Congratulations on being porous...I guess. And YAAAAAAAA for Ty and Michelle!!!!

Michelle said...

congrats! I am sure that was a bright spot in your otherwise tough week!

deidra said...

Hooray for families expanding and just getting better. What a blessing!

Tyler - Danielle - Emree said...

YEAH YEAH YEAH!!!! I would be up telling everyone at 12:01 too! Congrats.

Nikki said...

hmm. I never thought of porous in relation to people or personalities before. very interesting!

Congrats to Ty and Michelle! That's wonderful news!

Derek-Jenny-Kaitlynd-Ethan-Dylan said...

I told them in a rush as we were leaving...."I would be happy to do your engagements!".
I hope they know that I DID NOT know! I just had a strong feeling that this was coming!
Congrats Ty and Michelle!

Susan said...

Congratulations!! That is very exciting news!

I'll have to tell you in private what else was said at my house! ;)

Barb said...

Congratulations Ty and Michelle!

Kathy said...

Life goes on, doesn't it?!

Kathy said...

Yes you are!

Kathy said...

That last comment was meant for the "porus" post.

Jenny said...

How exciting!! Congrats to them!!

melanie said...

I love how Ray got you thinking. Yes, you are porous, giving so much and more back.

I was sitting behind Ty and Michelle and they were so sweet. Congrats both of them!

Jill said...

I love how there are so many ways to define being porous!

Congratulations to Ty and Michelle! Your family just keeps growing!

Katie said...

How exciting about the engagement!! Congrats to the young couple. And, yes, Ray bot your number. You are a listener and a giver.

michelle said...

The porous comment would have gotten me thinking, as well. I like it.

I am excited for Michelle to get to join your family! Lucky girl.

Lynn said...

Congratulations to Ty! Can't wait to meet her.

Cassidy said...

I'm reading this way too late, but who cares. YAY!!!!!!!!!!
We really liked her.

Carolyn said...

Congratulations to Ty and Michelle!

Marie said...

Congratulations, indeed!

Alisa said...

Oh I am so excited for you! And I agree with Michelle, that Michelle is a lucky girl indeed to be joining your family!
I wondered if something might happen between these two. When I saw them, they looked pretty good together!